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The Serenity Prayer for Smokers
God, grant me the Serenity
to to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it:
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to his will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life;
and supremely happy with Him forever in the next;
Amen
As smokers trying to stop smoking, we cannot change the craving for
cigarettes, but even if we can't change the craving, we can accept it. The truth
is that until we can accept our craving for cigarettes, we will not stop
smoking. Lighting another cigarette is what we do if we decide we cannot accept
the craving!
It's that simple: If you want a cigarette and you will not
accept the craving, then you will surely light a cigarette. Or maybe you will
have "one puff" to get you through, but even one puff is "not accepting" the
things that you cannot change.
Accepting the craving does not mean we
want the craving or like it. Accepting it means, first, recognizing the craving
for what it is: a strong desire, physical or psychological, not a need, for a
cigarette. That's all. We do not fight this craving; rather we look at it,
letting it be, not getting panic stricken or feeling sorry for ourselves, but
saying, "Yes, I really am craving a cigarette right now."
We do not
practice self-deception and try to trick ourselves into thinking we don't want
to smoke. This is an honest program. Nor do we try to hate the habit (or
ourselves) so much that we quit. No, we cannot make ourselves stop smoking, but
we can live with the craving, and so we pray for...
courage to change the things I can... The thing that we can change is our unwillingness to live, even
for a short time, with the craving for the next cigarette. We can, with God's
help and the support of the group, change our old way of dealing with craving,
and we deal with it in a new way: We become willing to live with the craving; we
no longer light a cigarette to get rid of the pain of craving. Our lighting up
shows that we have not accepted what we cannot change and have not acted with
the courage to change the things we can. Of course, living with a craving is
hard, sometimes very hard, but you are not alone-with God's help you can do it.
That is what this Serenity Prayer is all about.
So we ask God to help us accept the craving, and then we ask God to give us the courage not to take care
of this craving--as we have always done--by smoking one more cigarette. Thus, we
need the strength to accept the craving, and the courage not to light
up...
and wisdom to know the difference. The wisdom we ask for here is to
become aware of the difference between our old way of handling the discomfort of
craving in the past (by compulsively lighting up) and the new way of dealing
with cravings: accepting the craving until it passes, uncomfortable though we
may be for a few moments.
The strength and courage to live as ex-smokers with this discomfort does come if we ask for it, even though it may take
time. What we receive is not raw will power, but Power that comes from God, from the group, and from our inner-most self
The power that we want is actually love! It is only with this kind of power that we can become ex-smokers and receive a
new life free from nicotine addiction.
The reason we did not become ex-smokers years ago is that we chose not to live with the craving. Every time
we craved a cigarette, we gave in and smoked it. And kept on hoping that in some
magic way a day would arrive when the craving would disappear or we would find
an absolutely painless way to stop smoking. That day never came. Each of us kept
using our favorite rationalizations or excuses for lighting up, our own
justification for not living with the craving. And we kept on craving and
smoking, craving and smoking, year after year. But now we can change all that:
The moment we can accept what is -- "I want to smoke" -- and face it with the
courage God gives us, we can say, "I choose not to handle this craving by
smoking a cigarette" then we become ex-smokers!
If you continue to smoke even though you say this prayer, then say it again, and again, and keep on
saying it while you reflect what it means to you, a smoker. Eventually it will
work. It will not work if you are not sincere, but if all you can do at first is
to say the prayer without believing it, then at least do that! Some time may be
needed for you to receive the power to live with the discomfort that comes from
craving without lighting up, but eventually it will come. In time, the craving
will diminish greatly, and someday, we trust. it will disappear altogether. If
you have a slip, however, and you light one up, accept yourself reverently and
say the prayer again the next time!
Remember, it really is not the stress, frustration or even the craving that causes us to have another
cigarette, but rather our lack of strength to deal with the craving. That
strength comes from God, from the group, and from your own healthy inner self!
May God be with you now! - J.S.
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